Saturday, December 12, 2009
we put in Cs IEP that she can present book reports etc on video, so she can do it in snippets and not be overwhelmed trying to remember words etc. she had to do a presentation about the Mona loa volcano in hawaii. she REALLY struggles with the word eruption and hawaii. Kinda funny. :) anyway, this is her presentation. she gathered the facts herself (she learned copy/paste WAY younger than I did) and she found her own pictures. She also had a huge part in mixing and building the volcano model, and she painted it alone. (5th grade) I know this is not what a typical 5th grader can do, but it is where she is, and I am happy with it.
Wednesday, November 18, 2009
I am writing to ask for prayers and possibly donations to a baby girl born with DS 5 months ago near me. She has had TWO open heart surgeries in less than a month. One done in September failed and she is just recovering from her 2nd surgery Oct. 30th. Just got home from Portland hospital yesterday.
The baby is Abigail Grace, and she is so beautiful. Her mother has had to leave her job to be with baby, and dad has had to travel extensively to Portland. These are VERY young parents, not very financially prepared for a baby this sick. I am helping to organize a spaghetti supper in Orrington on Dec. 6th, to try to raise enough money to help these folks keep their home and get back on their feet from these multiple surgeries/trips.
We are selling tickets to the spaghetti supper. If you would like to purchase one, even if you cannot attend in person, we would be most grateful. Tickets are $6. The dinner is Dec. 5 at 5 pm in Orrington at the Ralph Pollard Masonic Lodge. There will be a silent auction at the dinner. If anyone could help in ANY way, it would be so sincerely appreciated.
Sincerely, Michelle (Mom of Ciarra age 11 with DS)
Friday, October 30, 2009
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
I have never really been very afraid of the future. I'm not now, either, but suddenly it feels a little...near. I have been thinking about Ciarra being 11, and what the future might be for her that is different than what I have expected it to be. I wish we had a crystal ball to know what to expect. But we don't. I wish we could just allow time to open up like a flower, exposing every day a little more of whats to come. But we have so much to DO, so much to plan. so many concerns, worries, so much OPENNESS in the future. Parenting a child with special needs has not been the hardest thing I have ever done. It certainly isn't the easiest, either. But it truly requires more thought, love, and emotion (and planning!) than anything I have ever done before.
I met with Ciarra's teachers yesterday, a sort of gut check for me, is this working? is this the best thing? What can I do better, what have I missed? As we walk this tightrope of Inclusion and Special education, sometimes it feels like I am just about to fall off into nothingness and fly naked into darkness. I feel exposed, not in control, and sometimes, frankly, afraid. There is in every step a sense that I just might be making the wrong decision, ruining her chances for a good future, destroying something precious and vital of her childhood. I am, by nature, a worrier. What happens to her if I get this wrong?
For anyone still reading, some background. Ciarra is currently in 5th grade. She is funny, witty, stubborn, determined, and incredibly incredibly special in ways that have absolutely nothing to do with having Down syndrome. She is world wise and innocently naive all in one. She is brilliant, and yet has gaps in her ability that still today astound me. She loves to read, she loves words, people, animals, her family, and a very few people outside of our family. She is easily motivated, usually. And then all at once she is stubborn and taciturn, demanding and...well...hormonal. She makes me laugh and she makes me cry, sometimes all in the space of a minute.
I fear for her future, not because of anything in her, but because every once in awhile some idiot will remind me that the world is not a gentle loving place for the most gentle, loving people. Sometimes, it even sucks. I watched an episode of My Super Sweet 16 yesterday, the rich girl was handing out birthday invitations, and other kids stood there, waiting to be deemed "good enough" or "not". And I knew, in this world, Ciarra would never be one of the lucky ones who got handed an invitation by the shallow rich girl throwing lavish parties. Of course, I know I wouldn't want that for her, but still...
Preteens with Down syndrome are a lot like typical kids. They want certain clothes, listen to the "cool" music (with a little bit of barney and doodlebops on the ipod for good measure) and they crave friendships. Ciarra is lucky to have a few very good friends. And one friend that we had had to distance her from a year ago has reached back out, with new rules and a new awareness and some maturity, it seems to be going well. But the girl who always made Ciarra a part of things at school moved away over the summer. Her absence has had an awful effect, without her there to encourage Ciarra to join in, be a part of things, without her friendship, Ciarra is choosing to sit away from that gang of girls. Without the buffer Jenna gave her, she seems a little bit lost. Besides, the other girls are talking about things she isn't into yet, that emotional maturity is just not there. She knows they talk about boys and makeup and parties. And she still wants to talk about puppies and kittens and Hannah Montana.
I feel like, in some weird way, I am letting people down by telling this story, like somehow because so many things have been relatively easy for Ciarra that this should be, too. But it isn't. Not always. She is SO blessed to have some really good friends at school and at home. But it is changing now, the kids are maybe leaving her behind a little bit. (I can almost hear "I told ya so" from the chorus of haters that almost will our kids to suffer, the people who want to see DS take the same toll on my kid it took on the ones they chose not to deliver at all.) And while Ciarra's life is changing, it certainly is not a bad life, or an unhappy one. But the realities of being a preteen with a significant disability in a world that only tolerates perfect are there.
I have to wonder, who really has the disability here? Ciarra doesn't judge, she doesn't hate, she is rarely angry. But what she is is different. Her world is so full, and she has so much. But as she grows, as she begins to make her way in a world less inclined to be accepting and tolerant, without me there to guide her, she gets hurt. ALL kids do, she is certainly not the only 5th grader to not get the coveted Birthday party invitation. Its just that she feels it so keenly, and I cant help but think it is because of the DS that she isn't being invited, I cant make that better, or promise she will outgrow it like I could if it was knobby knees or zits. Ds is a part of her, a part I treasure, but with all of its beauty comes a certain sadness, because the world is simply not as accepting of people who are different. And I have to wonder if this isn't the beginning of the end for this emotionally stable, healthy, confident little girl. Will she stay strong and continue to believe in herself? will she think Ds is no big deal, or will she wish with all of her heart to change it? Down syndrome is not something I would ever change for me. But for her, if she wanted to change it, would I ever have the right to stand in her way?
I have been asked many times since she was born, would you change it if you could? No, I wouldn't. But I will have to fight like hell to make her not wish she could, and make her comfortable with who she is, knowing that who she is is beautiful, funny, smart, gregarious...and sitting home on Saturday while most of her peers attend a Birthday party she wishes she too could attend. My other kids survived it, and I was sad for them, too. But with Ciarra, there is always the "might have beens" and sometimes those hurt even worse.
Sunday, October 18, 2009
To Select a Bauble For Your Blog
It is already nearly time for the 2009 Christmas Angel Tree Project! We have nearly (200) children with Down syndrome in need of sponsors and adoptive families in (25) countries around the world. (172) of them already have their own Christmas Warrior, folks who have signed up to provide focused efforts to raise $1000 or more for their Christmas child's adoption grant fund.
For those of you who are new to RR, when you donate $35 or more for one child's grant fund, you will receive a beautiful porcelain photo ornament of your sponsored child to hang on your Christmas tree! These also make very personal and meaningful GIFTS for people you know who are advocates of children with Down syndrome or adoption in general. Nobody wants more scented hand lotion! GIVE THE GIFT OF A FAMILY this Christmas instead.
The Sponsorship Page goes live on November 1. The project runs until December 31. But NOW is the time to prepare, sign up to be a Christmas Warrior, and help 2009 be our most successful Angel Tree EVER! All donations are tax deductible.
God bless each of you, we are so excited for this time of year and grateful for each of you sharing this ministry and this special project with everyone you know! Post about it on your blogs, your FB, your Twitter, your MySpace!
Andrea Faris Roberts
Executive Director, Reece's Rainbow
Saturday, October 03, 2009
we have a winner!!! Mr. Grifyn Bedford and his brother Xander won the software package. Be watching for the next giveaway, which will be drawn from all entries. Congrats Grifyn!
imagine, reading sight words already? Not too long ago, this little guy was in an orphanage, and had never heard english in his life. Amazing.
I have not been blogging lately, Facebook has become so easy that I rarely blog anymore. Tonight, that changes. As a part of 31 for 21, I will begin REBLOGGING. And in order to make up for my missed first days, I will be doing a giveaway!
The above prizes will be given away over 3 days. Tonight, to start the giveaway, we will give away the 2 Laureate programs pictured above! Be watching for the other prizes, including a copy of Play To Talk by Dr. Jim McDonald.
To the FIRST person to respond, who links me back to a blog post about their child with Down syndrome and the ways they learn academics, will go a TERRIFIC prize package!
You will receive a brand spanking new copy of Laureate's Nouns and Sounds software Value $125
PLUS! a copy of PREPOSITIONS, also by Laureate. value $210
these 2 programs are values at $335 dollars, but they are PRICELESS! Laureate puts out some incredible programs. They have been kind enough to allow me to donate these 2 programs to a lucky winner.
Ready? Set? Let's see who is still reading?!
Saturday, September 19, 2009
Sunday, August 16, 2009
this has been an enjoyable weekend of ME time, no schedules, no huge plans. some groceries, some laundry, a small project to help me get organized.The kids had a mellow weekend too, I almost feel like we are in cocoon mode right now, plotting against the school days that will come a week from this wed. Ciarra starts 5th grade, Jesse starts High School, and kristin goes to college. Time rushes by, and for this moment, I just want to hold onto all of us and the easy days and keep them close.
alas, life needs me to make some decisions and get ready. I created a bulletin board project for our entryway, something useful and semi decent to look at. Im no artist, to be sure, but I wanted something nicer than your average cork board.
basically, this is a corkboard covered with fabric, divided into sections for Jesse and Ciarra (Kristin keeps track on her own) and for the family in general. It makes it that much easier to remember school papers, sports schedules, Dr appointments, etc. I need to get a communication folder going, and update Ciarra's notebook with most recent IEP, etc. and i really need to clean out my office bins for this years homework and stuff.
C's teacher has been in touch, she seems wonderful. she asked me about adapting some stuff, and has some great ideas of her own. We will meet this week to go over anything we can think of to make this year easier. One of Ciarras best friends moved this summer, and she was sort of the buttress that brought C into the group at lunchtime, I wonder how that will go now that jenna is gone. she was a true gift to Ciarra socially, including her in everything. I worry.
Jim and I are doing well, he has been very loving and sweet the last few months, we made a commitment to one another to be a couple and not just parents. We actually had a date night the other night, a movie, it was nice.
Saturday, August 15, 2009
Monday, August 10, 2009
this article talks about the elderly and disabled and health care, and quotes Dr. Ezekiel Emanuel, the brother of White House Chief of Staff Rahm Emanuel. He has two key positions: health-policy adviser at the Office of Management and Budget and a member of Federal Council on Comparative Effectiveness Research.
the article quotes him directly as follows:
Hastings Center Report, Nov.-Dec. '96
Ezekiel J. Emanuel
"This civic republican or deliberative democratic conception of the good provides both procedural and substantive insights for developing a just allocation of health care resources. Procedurally, it suggests the need for public forums to deliberate about which health services should be considered basic and should be socially guaranteed. Substantively, it suggests services that promote the continuation of the polity those that ensure healthy future generations, ensure development of practical reasoning skills, and ensure full and active participation by citi- zens in public deliberations-are to be socially guaranteed as basic. Conversely, services provided to individuals who are irreversibly prevented from being or becoming participating citizens are not basic and should not be guaranteed. An obvious example is not guaranteeing health services to patients with de-mentia."
The fundamental challenge to theories of distributive justice for health care is to develop a prin- cipled mechanism for defining what fragment of the vast universe of technically available, effective medi- cal care services is basic and will be guaranteed socially and what services are discretionary and will not be guaranteed socially. Such an approach accepts a two-tiered health system-some citizens will receive only basic services while others will receive both basic and some discretionary health services Within the discretionary tier, some citizens will re- ceive few discretionary services, other richer citizens will receive almost all available services, creating a multiple-tiered system
"The patient, or micro, level entails determining which individual patients will re- ceive specific medical services; that is, whether Mrs. White should receive this available liver for trans- plantation"
Obamacare scares the heck out of me, and it should ANY parent of a child with a disability, and especially those of us raising children with an extremely high rate of dementia as they age. This is not an email fwd, this is not someone elses words. This is me, fearing for our kids.
Tuesday, July 14, 2009
2 Corinthians 12:9-10
But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ's sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
Had 2 funerals this past weekend, my Uncle Russell's and my aunt Dot's. It was amazing to see cosuins and aunts I hadnt seen in many years. My aunt's son Michael is a big, strapping man now. I havent seen him since he was a teen. He had made a box to hold his moms ashes, and it was resting at the gravesite after the ceremony. He was standing there, lost in thought, just quietly saying goodbye I guess. Suddenly, Ciarra tugged her hand out of mine, and I turned to see her standing beside Michael. she looked up at him, very quietly said "are you sad?" and then put her teeny little hand in his huge one and started to pray. It was otherwordly.
She said a very few words, and I dont know exactly what she said because she whispered, but it was "Dear God and Jesus" something. Then she turned to this 6 foot plus many man and said as clear as a bell "I can give you a hug to make you feel better. Dont be sad, your Mom is with God and Jesus now." She hugged him very close, and then turned and left him there, he looked at me in sort of shcok, like "what the HECK?!" with a huge smile on his face and tears in his eyes. It was a very strange, powerful encounter.
What's most odd about it is that I wasnt shocked by it. She has done things like this a few times, she has this odd THING about her that just seems so self confidant and strong in cases of death. She is POWERFUL, like this little mini minister person. I am in awe of her ability to comfort people.
To me, it is a very overpowering feeling of kindness, love, goodness. I feel honored to have it near me, but it is so clearly NOT mine, not guided or taught by me, it just IS.
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.
Wednesday, July 08, 2009
I heard on the news this morning that we have not had 2 days of sunshine back to back since APRIL 15th!!! At the end of June, they said we had had rain for 28 of 30 days. It is now July 8th, and we have had ONE day without rain since then. Sigh. Todays high is 54. No pool, no AC needed yet. Just blah. But...life goes on.
My Mom and stepdad are here from Florida for my Uncle Russell's funeral. We leave to drive up North for that tomorrow. It will be hard to say godbye to him, I loved him so much. My aunt Dot died 6 days after he did, we will bury them beside one another in the family plot. I will be seeing relatives I havent seen in 30 years. Kinda exciting, kinda scary.
Things that have happened in the last month.
-we went out to eat at weathervane and Vern tried to pay the bill. he and Jim chased one another around the restaurant (really) for 15 minutes. Jim won.
-Jesse seems to have a girl. she is gorgeous. I found myself having the "talk" with him as we drove him to her house last week. Yikes. He doesnt completely admit shes his girl, but she texts him constantly, shes been here and he at her house. I am old, but it hasnt been THAT long.
-Kristin has decided to go back to college. Financial Aid, anyone?
-Ciarra turned 11. we had her party at her summer camp. she had a great time, and so did we.
-Ciarra learned to kayak, and is pretty darn good at it.
-My darling Sarah got married, and I took her wedding pics. Beautiful bride, the apple of my eye too.
-Rob and Wendy and Hunter came for a visit! It was wonderful seeing them, but heartbreaking taking them to the airport afterwards. Home is here, in maine. I hope they can get home soon.
-Someone very special to us did something very unlike him last fall. He was defending his child, but he made a terrible decision. he went to prison recently. we miss him more every single day. He will not be out until 2012.
-We finally sold my Grandparents old house. The closing is tomorrow. yay. Finally done payingfor that thing!
=we went camping in the Rangeley mountains. I finished a long hike to a waterfall, but it was TOUGH.
-I am working on this extra weight of mine, God give me the strength to make the right choices.
Tuesday, June 30, 2009
Kristin, myself and a friend went to pick Ciarra up from camp today. When we arrived, the lifeguard, a very nice lady named Janet, told me she wishes she had had a video camera today. I said why, she told me that Ciarra had decided she was going to Kayak today...all be herself, out of the blue. And she did. Janet allowed Ciarra to hop back in one and show me her stuff. Wow! The kid LOVES kayaking, and shes pretty good at it too! Not sure I could make it go so well with only an hours practice! Once again, Ciarra surprises me.
The song used on this post is called The Climb by Miley Cyrus. When I hear it, it reminds me of this little girl of mine, and her constant attempts to break the mold and challenge herself. she is not a quitter, she is a go-getter and a powerhouse of a human being. The song is right, it just isnt about "getting there" it is all about the climb, the battle of wills that makes a human being who could easily give up and stop trying so hard to meet every challenge keep going, even when it is hard. When I think about Ciarra's life, I realize that in her shoes, I might want to take the easy way out, to let my disability be an excuse to just sit back and let the world come to me. Not this kid. she is constantly challenging herself, always striving a little harder, always ready to try anything at least once. It is hard to imagine a little tiny girl being my hero, but she is. she reminds me every single day that living the life God has given us to live is all that matters, that this is not a race, and that there are a million ways to prove who you are without ever opening your mouth to say a word. Its the climb, baby. :)
I can almost see it
That dream I'm dreaming
But there's a voice inside my head saying
"You'll never reach it"
Every step I'm taking
Every move I make feels
Lost with no direction
My faith is shaking
But I gotta keep trying
Gotta keep my head held high
There's always gonna be another mountain
I'm always gonna wanna make it move
Always gonna be a uphill battle
Sometimes I'm gonna have to lose
Ain't about how fast I get there
Ain't about what's waiting on the other side
It's the climb
The struggles I'm facing
The chances I'm taking
Sometimes might knock me down
But no, I'm not breaking
I may not know it
But these are the moments that
I'm gonna remember most, yeah
Just gotta keep going
And I, I got to be strong
Just keep pushing on
'Cause there's always gonna be another mountain
I'm always gonna wanna make it move
Always gonna be a uphill battle
Sometimes I'm gonna have to lose
Ain't about how fast I get there
Ain't about what's waiting on the other side
It's the climb, yeah!
There's always gonna be another mountain
I'm always gonna wanna make it move
Always gonna be an uphill battle
Somebody's gonna have to lose
Ain't about how fast I get there
Ain't about what's waiting on the other side
It's the climb, yeah!
Keep on moving, keep climbing
Keep the faith, baby
It's all about, it's all about the climb
Keep the faith, keep your faith, whoa
Monday, June 29, 2009
Saturday, June 27, 2009
It seems impossible that today my little girl is eleven years old. We are more than halfway to adulthood, we are no longer trying to figure out where we are headed, we just keep putting one foot in front of the other and doing it. Eleven years have zoomed by, it seems like only yesterday I was hearing myself say "What are the chances this baby has Down syndrome?" only a blink of an eye since I challenged a doctor who seemed to be questioning why I hadn't "done something about this?" (meaning abort her) and wasn't it just 2 seconds ago that I was snapping the photo of her in the red coat on the steps of the preschool?
In my minds eye, I see a million memories, first steps on a dirt road at a DS conference; the first time I held her in my arms and heard Karen Gaffney speak, promising Ciarra she, too, would have that love and support; tiny pink headbands on a mop of dark hair; the tear duct that refused to open for so long, leaving one beautiful pirate-eyed baby girl squinting up at me; the first of many times medical professionals would look at me in wonder and ask "she sure is doing well, for having Down syndrome." The realization that it wasn't Ciarra they were surprised about, it was their own preconceptions. I remember the early friendships, some of whom remain strong to this day. Girl Parties, precious little ones dressed in their Sunday best to celebrate life with Ciarra. I remember revelling in the early words-"SHE CAN TALK!" Finding big brother snuggled up with her in her crib, one arm protectively across her shoulders. I remember her first drawings, the time she spelled Mom on a little sliver of paper I still have somewhere. I remember the sparkle in her eyes the first time she tied her shoes...at three. I remember days at the Cardiologists office, hearing the magic words "she is discharged". I remember tonsils and adenoids, and the struggle to wake up from anaesthesia.
I remember a hundred parents just ahead of me on the path, reassuring me about: atlanto axial instability (she didn't, but the testing was a nightmare); late teeth; first words; what leukemia looked like...was it possible? I remember her infancy and toddlerhood through a thousand photographs, documenting a life less ordinary, but so incredibly precious. I remember the terrible words of the terminating mothers, that "she is cute now, but you will regret it when she is older and the cute is gone." I remember finding out in detail what happened to over 90% of her prenatally diagnosed peers, and feeling completely ineffective and useless...except for the red coat picture...which seemed to be a living thing to so many people making the decision.
I remember the first day her tiny legs tried to climb the bus steps, and she turned and waved, my heart outside my body, little big girl off into the world. I couldn't protect her, shield her, anymore. I remember knowing she would be ok, when I saw her amongst her friends, smiling, one of the crowd. I remember tball, and basketball, when we tied a ribbon to the hoop to give her a visual reminder of which net was ours. I remember a million kindnesses, people who could have walked by that chose to stop and extend the hand of friendship instead, to celebrate every accomplishment with her. I remember the stands erupting when she got her first big hit in baseball. I remember the faces of her teammates, as they lined up outside the dugout to give her five, unscripted, as my video camera rolled while I tried not to cry from the beauty of it all.
I remember the struggle to make school work for her, the decisions, the battles, the victories. I remember walking into the lunchroom and thinking she might be sitting with the special needs kids at the table in the corner, then hearing laughter from a group of some of the most popular girls, who were laughing at something Ciarra said...not in a mean way, they were letting her tell a story, listening intently, reacting with love and support. I remember feeling like our lives are written in tiny sound bites of memories like these, and that building enough of them to fortify her for an uncertain future was important. I remember thinking that maybe it is time to stop worrying about the future so much, it seems obvious that today is the future we worried about, and she is doing fine.
I remember the phone call from my oldest, telling me that Ciarra "was a woman now" and being so grateful that she had been there, to make it cool, to not panic, to take it all in stride and help Ciarra see it as a good thing. I remember her dancing on the beach with her imaginary prince, twirling in the sunset, taking my breath away with her innocence.
I remember who I used to be, and how far I have come. I remember the days when "different" was anathema, when a child with disabilities scared me. I remember to be gentle with that me, because there are a thousand just like her all around us in the world who need gentle understanding and guidance as they learn about MY child.
Mostly, I remember to tuck every memory away, good and bad, somewhere in my mind. To look back when we look forward, to always remember that every single day will impact who she is and what becomes of her. I am not afraid anymore. DS is a part of who Ciarra is, but it has never defined her. She defines herself, and she will be who God intended her to be. Whoever that is is more than fine with me. Happy Birthday, big girl, I cant wait to see what the next 11 will bring.
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
After a private specialist diagnosed respondent with learning disabili-ties, his parents unilaterally removed him from petitioner publicschool district (School District), enrolled him in a private academy,and requested an administrative hearing on his eligibility for special-education services under the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA), 20 U. S. C. §1400 et seq. The School District found re-spondent ineligible for such services and declined to offer him an in-dividualized education program (IEP). Concluding that the School District had failed to provide respondent a “free appropriate publiceducation” as required by IDEA, §1412(a)(1)(A), and that respon-dent’s private-school placement was appropriate, the hearing officerordered the School District to reimburse his parents for his private-school tuition. The District Court set aside the award, holding thatthe IDEA Amendments of 1997 (Amendments) categorically bar re-imbursement unless a child has “previously received special educa-tion or related services under the [school’s] authority.”§1412(a)(10)(C)(ii). Reversing, the Ninth Circuit concluded that theAmendments did not diminish the authority of courts to grant reim-bursement as “appropriate” relief pursuant to §1415(i)(2)(C)(iii). See School Comm. of Burlington v. Department of Ed. of Mass., 471 U. S. 359, 370.
Held: IDEA authorizes reimbursement for private special-education services when a public school fails to provide a FAPE and the private-school placement is appropriate, regardless of whether the child pre-viously received special-education services through the public school.Pp. 6–17.
(a) This Court held in Burlington and Florence County School Dist. Four v. Carter, 510 U. S. 7, that §1415(i)(2)(C)(iii) authorizes courts
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to reimburse parents for the cost of private-school tuition when a school district fails to provide a child a FAPE and the private-schoolplacement is appropriate. That Burlington and Carter involved the deficiency of a proposed IEP does not distinguish this case, nor does the fact that the children in Burlington and Carter had previously re-ceived special-education services; the Court’s decision in those cases depended on the Act’s language and purpose rather than the particu-lar facts involved. Thus, the reasoning of Burlington and Carter ap-plies unless the 1997 Amendments require a different result. Pp. 6–
(b) The 1997 Amendments do not impose a categorical bar to reim-bursement. The Amendments made no change to the central purpose of IDEA or the text of §1415(i)(2)(C)(iii). Because Congress is pre-sumed to be aware of, and to adopt, a judicial interpretation of a statute when it reenacts that law without change, Lorillard v. Pons, 434 U. S. 575, 580, this Court will continue to read §1415(i)(2)(C)(iii)to authorize reimbursement absent a clear indication that Congressintended to repeal the provision or abrogate Burlington and Carter. The School District’s argument that §1412(a)(10)(C)(ii) limits reim-bursement to children who have previously received public special-education services is unpersuasive for several reasons: It is not sup-ported by IDEA’s text, as the 1997 Amendments do not expresslyprohibit reimbursement in this case and the School District offers noevidence that Congress intended to supersede Burlington and Carter; it is at odds with IDEA’s remedial purpose of “ensur[ing] that allchildren with disabilities have available to them a [FAPE] that em-phasizes special education . . . designed to meet their unique needs,” §1400(d)(1)(A); and it would produce a rule bordering on the irra-tional by providing a remedy when a school offers a child inadequatespecial-education services but leaving parents remediless when the school unreasonably denies access to such services altogether. Pp. 8–
(c) The School District’s argument that any conditions on accepting IDEA funds must be stated unambiguously is clearly satisfied here, as States have been on notice at least since Burlington that IDEA au-thorizes courts to order reimbursement. The School District’s claims that respondent’s reading will impose a heavy financial burden on public schools and encourage parents to enroll their children in pri-vate school without first trying to cooperate with public-school au-thorities are also unpersuasive in light of the restrictions on reim-bursement awards identified in Burlington and the fact that parentsunilaterally change their child’s placement at their own financial risk. See, e.g., Carter, 510 U. S., at 15. Pp. 15–16.
523 F. 3d 1078, affirmed.
Monday, June 22, 2009
things I dont ever want to forget:
singing to the Ipod in the car, and her stopping to look at me and tell me that "Hannah Montana is my FAVORITE pop star. Delighting in the words, and in this delicious little girl who wields them with a sparkle in her eye and a huge smile.
Seeing her RUN off the bus and into the arms of the Director, who greeted her with a hug and remembered her name.
Watching her sit with 2 little friends who also have DS, she has known forever, in beanbags at the front as the co-Director welcomes them back. When she asks what things the kids are most excited to do, Ciarra begs to sing "Going on a Lion Hunt" and the place lights up...."I remember that song!!!" from a hundred little voices.
Then watching her stand up and sing her own favorite song, the Spongebob theme song, perfectly right, exactly on key, not missing a word. and smiling as she wiggles her hips and points 2 fingers at her rapt audience as she calls out "Are you ready, kids...who lives in a pineapple under the sea" and watching them all shout back the words "Spongebob Squarepants!"
It is as if summer began for real today, in a light rain, on the shores of a beautiful lake, surrounded by friends. Summer camp is the most joyous thing for a kid, and my girl is no exception.
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
Geez. What the hell is it with people? Someone wasn't winning an argument real well, no substantive responses, etc. So they apparently thought they would get the BIG jab in, go for the jugular...is that the BEST you can do? I laugh in your...um...well, whatever.
Let me explain something. The world would probably be a lot better place if we were all "a little bit retarded". Maybe we wouldnt have so many wars, we wouldnt care about the labels on our clothes. We wouldnt let anyone go hungry or homeless. We would be much more likely to stop and smell the roses along the way and not be rushing hither and yon trying to GET MORE STUFF. Certainly, we would not be aborting babies and using them as the butt of our jokes...we would revere life, from a butterfly to a wooly mammoth. We wouldnt even dare to think nasty thoughts or be cruel to one another.
We would be much more simple in our thoughts, good and bad would not ever look the same to us. We would dance when the spirit moved us, laugh freely without embarrassment. Being mentally retarded would make us a little less conscious of each others faults. We would love unconditionally, even our enemies. We would know kindness and eloquence and dignity, and no one could ever take that away, either by posting supposed "jokes" about our intelligence or about our worth in the world as a human being.
I guess your silly little post was meant to hurt me, to embarrass me. But it has the opposite effect, you see? I am stronger for having my child in my life. Even a "defective, retarded" child...ANY child....teaches us to be kinder, better people. You should maybe consider that, when you are done being stupid and childish and petty yourself. When you can see past your own value and find it in another person. I wont hold my breath. ;)
PS: I like this version better.
Posted by Michelle at 10:38 AM
Saturday, June 06, 2009
was looking through my old saved blogs from last year, catching up on who has brought their little ones home etc when I RE-discovered this adorable blog. O!M!G! The CLOTHES this lady makes!! I wish C was littler and I could get away with it....I just love her stuff. And even better, it all goes towards bringing her future daughter home. seriously, if you have a little girl, go LOOK! I dont know much more about them except I love the clothes, and they seem absolutely adorable as a family.
Friday, June 05, 2009
Welcome to Summer,
Since you and your child may be spending time with some new people or
family this summer, you will have the chance to invite them to help
your child interact and communicate more. The hopefully more relaxed
times of summer often help children make real gains in socializing.
As your child meets more and more people, you can help him a great
deal by coaching family and friends in ways that help him socialize
and communicate. The more people he interacts with the more he will
learn and the and less alone he will be.
Anyone who knows your child can help.
You might begin with a few suggestions, such as
Say one thing them wait for him or
Make the sounds he makes. or
Talk about what he is doing or
Question less and comment more or
You dont have to talk, playing quiet will help him.
He does best when you act like him. And
She can do a lot more than you may expect.
Show and discuss this with anyone spending much time with your child
family, sitters, teachers, and aides. Keep this list in your purse or
wallet so you get in the habit of changing your childs world in his
favor. Be proud of your child and find new friends for him or her.
Let us know how it works.
HOW YOU CAN HELP MY CHILD DEVELOP.
When a child is delayed or not socially outgoing, he or she needs
people to interact in different ways than is typical. When a child has
autism pdd, aspergers, Down syndrome, cerebral palsy or other
conditions effecting communication, they have special needs of their
life partners if they are to learn and build relationships with
them. Think of the guides below similar to ones you would give to
people if you had a child with diabetes, heart problems, allergies,
special fears, or different learning styles. For example, for a
diabetic child, you would let everyone know how to and how not to feed
and treat them. Similarly with late talking children we need to
let their life partners know how to interact so the child will show
his best and so they will truly see what the child can really do.
HELLO! You can really help my child develop. You do not need
training; you just need to be his partner. The more real friends he
has now, the more he will learn and fit in the world.
Thanks for connecting and helping my child grow.
My child can do more than you think!
My child will learn, communicate and care about you more when you
do some of the following:
Interact WITH not AT my child.
Enter physically in his world and observe him silently for a short
Become aware of his interests and ability level.
Then, gently join into his activity without disrupting it.
Do what the child is doing.
Do not do a lot more than he is doing- but be active.
Match his movements; act in ways he can try to do.
Respond to his movements with similar, related movements.
Talk about the here and now, about the childs experiences.
Be animated: be more interesting than what is distracting him.
Do more of what you do when he stays with you
Do less of what you do when he leaves you.
Match his speech: talk in ways he can now talk (this will help him
Respond to his speech: show him you are interested.
Wait silently for him to take his turn
Dont just praise him: enjoy him instead; your response is the best
Take turns with action and talk: be sure to give and take.
If you dont understand him, treat it as a foreign language and simply
give him an English word that fits the situation.
Limit your questions and demands: comment instead.
Bottom line: the more you enjoy each other, the more my child will
learn with you.
PS: ALL OF THIS WILL HELP YOUR CHILD
BE MORE SOCIAL AND COMMUNICATIVE AND LEARN MORE.
COMMON PROBLEM:--TOO MUCH TALKING
PARTNER TALKS SO MUCH
THE CHILD GETS TOO LITTLE PRACTICE.
Why is this a problem?:
Not enough practice for a conversation habit.
Learns to be passive.
Learns to talk about others ideas.
Fails to learn turn-taking.
Believes his ideas are not important.
Partner usually gives talking models that are too complicated.
Conversation are short lived when one person runs the show.
CONVERSATION LEADS TO A SOCIAL LIFE MORE THAN LANGUAGE ITSELF.
What can you do to help?
THINK OF CONVERSATION AS A GIVE AND TAKE, A PING-PONG
GAME NOT A LECTURE OR A TEST.
Wait silently for partner to have his turn.
Clearly expect and anticipate him to participate.
Allow his turn at times to be physical and nonverbal.
Accept and respond to a turn even if it is unclear.
Let person know that you want the conversation to continue.
Remind your self that he will learn more when you do only half.
Your child learns language best in conversations.
Make conversation out of physical interactions.
LESS LIKE THIS
MOM: Your birthday's coming. What do you think you will get? I bet
Grandma will get you clothes again. Who will get you toys? What toys
do you want?
Child: Computer games. The ones that...
M: Interrupting. Oh not more of those. you just hide away and get
stuck on those.
C: You can play with me on the computer.
M: Oh you know I am always busy. And I don't understand what you see
C: You could learn.
M: Oh I have too much to do.
MORE LIKE THIS:
MOM: Birthday's coming. Waits looking at child.
Child: I want a train cake. With an engine and a caboose.
M: Any tender cars?
C: Yes one for pigs and horses.
M: They might fight together.
C: Okay, lets have two tender cars.
M: Good idea
CONVERSATIONS DEVELOP BEST WHEN BOTH PARTNERS PARTICIPATE AS MUCH AS
THE OTHER. THE CHILD LEARNS MORE LANGUAGE TOO..
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Tuesday, June 02, 2009
Ciarra is currently in 4th grade, and doing very well. She is spending a few hrs a day now in the Resource Room, which so far seems a really good fit. She is excited to be having a birthday coming up, and some school friends have already asked if they can come.
So far, friendships are still going strong for Ciarra. She has a few very good friends, one best friend (Julianna) and "school friends". She continues to be very lucky in this regard, at lunchtime for instance, she rarely sits alone, and has a group of very nice girls that seem to genuinely enjoy her company. Not sure she notices, but Mom sure does, these are some of the most popular girls. (yay!)
I think that some changes we made this year in terms of friends have been very positive for her, it was very difficult to draw lines between she and her former best friend, but it has been a very good decision. Thankfully, Julianna jumped right in. She lives next door and they truly love one another, she spends a lot of time here, they play on the same baseball team, etc. I imagine the summer will be full of mud pies and picnic lunches. It is sweet to see them every morning waiting for the bus, they always hug one another like it has been years. sweet sweet moments to treasure.
Ciarra plays catcher again this year in baseball, and LOVES it. she seems to be getting better and better at hitting, too. Being on the team is so good for her, she learns so much about working together. Not sure what next y will bring, she will have to move up to softball for bigger girls, we will play it by ear, as always.
Ciarra LOVES monster movies! Monster House, Coraline, Monsters Inc. She wants a Coraline birthday party, and wants to be Boo from Monsters Inc next Halloween. She is a funny kid. Her speech is just rolling along, most people understand most of what she says now, and she makes a point of making sure they do. She is funny, gregarious, and also a bit moody, which must be from being a girl and hitting puberty. :)
Healthwise, things are going very well. We have found a wonderful ENT who is really aggressive in searching for answers to this ongoing issue she has. we really like him. She has been much healthier this year, fewer ear infections, sleeping well, and growing like a WEED! She is in a size 12 now, about 76 pounds, and tall and strong. she used to be such a wisp, now she is solid like a rock. Very little chub, just SOLID. She has begun to run much faster (baseball!) and talks a lot about healthy foods, although she still likes her Pepsi and chocolate. ;)
We recently went camping with friends, and she had a blast. She and I worked to start the campfire, and I really let her do it. She gathered twigs, newspaper, and firewood, and I lit a small branch so she could get the fire going. She did it so proudly. She husked corn, helped set up chairs around the fire, fished, hiked, rode 4 wheelers, and laughed a LOT. The girl LOVES fish!!! she must have eaten 3 salmon and a trout in one sitting. Crazy kid... smores too....there went healthy, huh? :) she thought reeces cups were a GREAT idea for smores, and she was right! she hiked several miles, forded a river 4 times, and made it all the way up to Angel Falls. She continues to amaze me with her tenacity and willpower.
10...almost 11....has brought more joy and respect for just LIVING than I could have ever imagined. Having Ciarra in our lives has been a gift, and she is one of the neatest kids I know. Someone once told me that she was little and cute at 4, but by 10 she would be miserable and lonely. I can only wish I was as easygoing, popular, and happy as this child. she lives life so fully, laughs often, and just exudes confidence. And she is beautiful, inside and out. Ten has not been any kind o downer, instead it has been another year full to the brim with love and happiness. Here's to 11!
Jesse and Kristin are doing well, also. Jesse will graduate 8th grade next week. He seems to like a little girl in his class, EEK! He is a good kid, smart and funny. Kristin is enjoying her young adulthood, she isnt in many of the pics because she just isnt with us as much as when she was younger.