I donated a computer to Ciarra's classroom today, it was an older model I jazzed up with lots of memory. It should be very helpful in their publishing class, they all write books and publish them on computers. Anyway...
While visiting, I ended up helping out with some math. Mrs C was pretty busy with publishing, so I helped a few kids who were doing their math. I really really enjoy that stuff. I get along very well with the kids, and they with me. I feel so welcomed there this year, and that is a nice change, last 2 years I have felt like the odd man out. This teacher, though, she is amazing. she really values my knowledge of Ciarra. Interestingly, I rarely work with my own kid when I am there helping. She is pretty self-sufficient. Even better, she isnt clingy, which is a huge step forward.
I was helping a little girl with her math when I noticed Ciarra and Robert sitting beside each other in the big rocking chair, sharing a book. He was very patiently listening to her read, and she was doing a great job. after, they put the book away and started to head off to their desks. I saw him stop, turn, and reach out to her. he gave her five. Charming, sweet little boy. Then they whispered together for a minute. They walked to his desk where he dug out a piece of paper and wrote his name on it. Then he asked her for our number, and wrote that down, too. He walked over and somewhat shyly asked if he could come over sometime. (YAY!)
Ciarra has plenty of friends, but I always celebrate when she begins to expand those friendships and not rely so much on Jade. jade is a great kid, usually, but friendships can be weird, and I want Ciarra to have more than just Jade and a few other kids. Its great that she is taking the lead and seeking these out. So, I said yes to Robert. They were in Kindergarten together, a few yrs ago, been to each others parties. he came to her little bowling party earlier this year, too. They seem to have an understanding. I am trying to let them create it as they want it, and not direct.
Tonight, Robert called three times. :) He wanted to know if it was ok if he came tommorrow. Then he called to ask Ciarra what they would be doing. They chatted for a while, making arrangements from basketball (which he liked) to watching her newest spongeBob kovie (which I dont think interested him much.) When she mentioned video games, he was happy, and asked her what ones she has. Being the little sister of a 12 yr old pays off, sometimes. Jesse has some more boy-friendly fare than "Bratz Mall Madness", Im sure they can find something to enjoy.
I feel like I am watching Ciarra blossom in ways I couldnt have imagined. I was worried about third grade...and it is fast proving to be a GREAT year. Now, if the Momma can just sit back and let the kids figure this all out, and help make it fun for them. It is fun to see them, an makes me wonder if these kids really DO get it, after all. They see her as a friend. It isnt ABOUT DS to them. It isnt about Inclusion, they wouldnt know the word. But in my heart of hearts, I know that Inclusion is what makes this happen. and I am counting my blessings tonight.
Wednesday, November 07, 2007
cuteness all around
Thursday, October 18, 2007
What is Inclusion?
Inclusion is not just a place a kid goes. I used to kind of think that way, like...if shes in that classroom, with typical kids, THAT is inclusion. But it wasnt. Inclusion is sort of a state of mind, a commitment to educating a child with a disability while seeing them as completely capable individuals with their own strengths within the classroom. A child might be IN a classroom that calls itself Inclusion, but still not really be INCLUDED.
Inclusion means someone is taking pains to make him a part of the community within the classroom, and holding him accountable too, to being a member of that community. For instance, Ciarra has long been IN an Inclusive classroom. But it wasnt working, she was withdrawing a bit the last 2 yrs, pulling away, sort of afraid to emotionally open herself to the other kids. Intimidated, I thought. Her teacher was wonderful...but....she clearly and fully saw Ciarra as different, and not in a way that made her want that challenge. She assumed things couldnt happen that could have, with care. She loved Ciarra, and so she tended to baby her a bit. To be fair, there was no program around her that supported her Including Ciarra, either. "Here is this kid, educate her" was how it happened.
This year, we went into third grade with a strong belief that what we were seeing before was NOT Inclusion. It was a place, plain and simple. There was no scaffolding to support any of them, Ciarra, the teacher, or the other kids. If Ciarra turned away from other kids or was intimidated by them, then that was fine, "we wont push". THIS year, we have set about creating an Inclusion atmosphere. It is in every second of the daily planning, and it took a LOT of work and a LOT of faith by the staff (and by ME) that it was at least worth a shot. This morning I had my first monthly meeting. And I was told, point blank, [i]we didnt believe this could happen. But it IS happening, in fact it is awesome![/i]
A teacher committed to Inclusion will make it work. She will find things the children have in common, whatever those may be. She will see at least ONE thing in your child he can be successful at and build on that. An example for a little older kid would be...if a child is a good photographer, he/she might take photos for a group project. His or her contribution is valuable, important, and equal.
COMMUNITY is vital to Inclusion. Creating a community in which the child feels valuable, capable, smart, is so important. A good teacher will find those things and let him shine. She will encourage friendships by assigning tasks to groups, by having your child choose 2 friends to take the lunch money to the office with, encouraging friendships along the walk, she will ask kids to make goals that involve personal attributes...things they can do that make the community work better. Like manners, helping one another, being a real friend. She will teach the children to give him time to respond when they speak to him, and find ways to encourage them to need to speak to him within the context of the classroom. "Johnny, are you having white milk or chocolate at lunch today?" and wait for his reply.
If you arent sure about how your teacher will handle this stuff, go to the guidance counselor and ask her to research Lunch Buddies or Circle of Friends. Elicit the help of everyone there to make him feel successful and WANT to engage. Ask the Spec Ed teacher to brainstorm with the reg ed teacher, to come up with a plan. Often, it isnt the placement that is the issue, it is the scaffolding around that placement.
Friday, August 31, 2007
Week one-Inclusion
we use a communication notebook for Ciarra. It is mandated in her IEP that it be written in. Most of the time until now, I have had a few short sentences, if I got lucky. Last year, there were stretches of LONG weeks with nothing. This year, the year that we are trying Inclusion, fighting for it with every breath...we have a new teacher. And she believes in Inclusion. I am even starting to dream a little. I think she believes in CIARRA, too. It has only been 3 days, but I am so heartened.
Wed:
ME: Ciarra will have hot lunch today, and usually every day. You may hafta remind her about the clothespin thingy, that is new for her. It is supposed to be hot and humid today, hope she is ok, she should be just fine. I hope all goes well, shes excited! Please let me know. Good Luck!!
(Not at all sure I would hear back so soon, it is the first day, its hectic, and well....theres a track record to uphold...)
Her: Mrs H, GREAT DAY!! Ciarra wrote a great story-she dictated and I wrote. She participated in all activities today. Got sleepy at 2, and curled up in the rocking chair with my daughter's quilt. :)
(oh BOY...did I dare to dream? I wasnt surprised she was tired, it is always this way when the year starts)
THURS:
Me: So glad it went well!! I expect she will be tired for awhile. Thanks for letting her "power nap". She said she liked it a lot. Thank you for the extra efforts on her behalf. Michelle
Her: Hi Michelle,
Sped Director checked in with me today about next week's PET. The best date and time is the 6th at 2:30. How's that for you?
Ciarra is doing very well. Today she filled out her "social goals for 3rd grade" hot air balloon and colored it in. She was very clear that she wants to learn to safely push her friends on the swings. 2 of her friends, Eva & Cierra B, agreed to help her with it. She did all she was asked, with encouragement and praise. She is at Music now, alert & excited, she says she LOVEs music! Deb
FRI:
ME: Breathing a sigh of relief here. So far, so good, huh?! She LOVES your class. I am now told the PET will be held Monday the 17th at 2:30. Hope that works for everyone.
PS could you please remind her to leave her crayon/marker pouch in her desk? She keeps forgetting to take it from her backpack. Thanks!
HER: Hi Michelle, It is Lunch time and your daughter has had a wonderful morning. She did all her morning jobs independently, using the pictures on the activity schedule to guide her. She did morning work (modified) independently with everyone else. We read a story as a class, and drew a picture from it. She was the first to share, and re-told the story-including details-wonderful comprehension!! (more later...)
Hi Michelle, I'm back. :) It is 1:30. Ciarra participated in a Math group-I modified the expectations. She was able to fully participate. At 1:15, she went to the rug with the quilt and curled up. She told me she was "SO tired!" At 1:30, the class left for Computer Class, which I understand she loves. She said she was just too tired, and stayed in the classroom sleeping with me. :)
I just came back from Spec Ed teacher and Sped Dir. Ciarra has had a GREAT week, and is able to participate well in Language Arts activities. Math at this point, is very difficult for her. I think she recognizes that her work is very different, and she wants to do the work they do, but struggles with it terribly. I would like to suggest, as you mentioned initially, that we allow her to go to the Resource Room for Math from 12:30-1:30 daily. That is the time we do Math in the classroom. This will enable her to be a part of every bit of the rest of the day, which she handles easily and well. We will try this until the PET mtg the 17th, then talk about it further then. Please call if you have any questions. I think your daughter is a darling, smart, capable little girl. I am so glad to have the chance to work with her. Thank you. Deb
Included in her folder was the journal entry from earlier in the week, plus another note:
"I like to play with Shelby & Eva. I like to swing together. We can play tag. I love to climb on the monkey bars. I like to hide and seek."
the note:
During writing class, Ciarra dictated this story to me-VERY clearly. When I stopped after 3 sentences, she said "No, I have more!" Then SHE read it to the class. :)
I'm on cloud 9. Maybe this will work afterall? She sounds like she likes Ciarra, enjoys her, GETS her. I knew the Math was TOUGH. Not at all surprised, and think resource will be a good idea for math...ONLY Math. The rest I am thrilled about. Not to mention, that time will be less gogogogo, so she may be able to rest up a bit. I am so excited. I think this is going to be an AWESOME year!
Tuesday, August 28, 2007
Inclusion-an update
well, tomorrow is the big day. My little girl will be a big old third grader. Time is rushing by, I think I barely blinked, last I knew she was needing a brotherly boost up the first step of the bus. This is the year that we decided to pursue her full legal rights...Inclusion.
If you have been reading, you will know that this isnt happening without a bit of a fight, or at the very least a mommy temper tantrum. I asked for her to be more included, got the pitying looks of "oh, MOM, surely you jest? she cant HANDLE it." Yes she can. She can if YOU can. She can if you make it work the way Inclusion is meant to work. It can fail, to be sure, if YOU fail. Ciarra cannot fail, she will never give you anything less than 110% of herself. make it work. Please?
Some things encourage me, and scare me to death at the same time. This year will be a new wing, a new playground, a later lunch period, new teacher, new friends....third grade is moving up in the world. Ciarra had 2 years of K with Mrs Rogers, then a 1/2 classroom with Mrs. Swett for 2 years. The rooms were comfortingly right across the hall, the transition was smooth and easy. Both teachers loved her, but I never got the impression that they were EXCITED to have her. More like...willing. Not unhappy about it, but no real "Im looking so forward to this" either. Both were wonderful teachers, and by the end of it, both seemed to be quite smitten with this darling little girl.
But this year is different. THIS teacher is Mrs. Colson. She is a former Special Education teacher now teaching 3rd grade. She lives on a farm with her husband (who is Jesse's homeroom teacher and a dear sweet man.) They host a summer camp on their farm all summer, surrounded by kids and loving the teaching. THIS teacher is EXCITED.
Mrs. C has been in regular contact over the summer. She took several hours to learn Ciarra's writing program, and was excited about it. She asked my ideas, implemented my suggestions. Today she told me that the first week will be all about getting to know one another in small groups and learn to be a COMMUNITY. :) She sees Ciarra's strengths and intends to highlight them. Perhaps giving her jobs with a digital camera, she is GOOD with a camera. Or letting her create presentations on her computer, she is good at that too, and it all but removes the barriers speech delays cause. This teacher wants Ciarra to be HER student, and her goal is even more lofty than mine, she wants Ciarra in her room ALL the time. She doesnt even want to cede the math I agreed to have her pulled for. She thinks she can do this. I am starting to think she can, too. She thinks French is a "ridiculous" class for Ciarra (oh BOY do I agree!!) and thinks that would be the perfect time for Speech. YAY! She intends to set up learning stations in her room, and in concert with the Special Ed teacher, who will push in services, teach collaboratively to ALL of the kids. I couldnt have dreamed it this good.
The big question mark now is, will this all really happen? will it somehow magically fall into place and be ok? No aide, my girl is on her own. But not completely. She has a teacher who is willing her to make it. And I think she can. I have faith again, tonight. I just hope tomorrow and the days coming dont prove me wrong.
Inclusion-an update
well, tomorrow is the big day. My little girl will be a big old third grader. Time is rushing by, I think I barely blinked, last I knew she was needing a brotherly boost up the first step of the bus. This is the year that we decided to pursue her full legal rights...Inclusion.
If you have been reading, you will know that this isnt happening without a bit of a fight, or at the very least a mommy temper tantrum. I asked for her to be more included, got the pitying looks of "oh, MOM, surely you jest? she cant HANDLE it." Yes she can. She can if YOU can. She can if you make it work the way Inclusion is meant to work. It can fail, to be sure, if YOU fail. Ciarra cannot fail, she will never give you anything less than 110% of herself. make it work. Please?
Some things encourage me, and scare me to death at the same time. This year will be a new wing, a new playground, a later lunch period, new teacher, new friends....third grade is moving up in the world. Ciarra had 2 years of K with Mrs Rogers, then a 1/2 classroom with Mrs. Swett for 2 years. The rooms were comfortingly right across the hall, the transition was smooth and easy. Both teachers loved her, but I never got the impression that they were EXCITED to have her. More like...willing. Not unhappy about it, but no real "Im looking so forward to this" either. Both were wonderful teachers, and by the end of it, both seemed to be quite smitten with this darling little girl.
But this year is different. THIS teacher is Mrs. Colson. She is a former Special Education teacher now teaching 3rd grade. She lives on a farm with her husband (who is Jesse's homeroom teacher and a dear sweet man.) They host a summer camp on their farm all summer, surrounded by kids and loving the teaching. THIS teacher is EXCITED.
Mrs. C has been in regular contact over the summer. She took several hours to learn Ciarra's writing program, and was excited about it. She asked my ideas, implemented my suggestions. Today she told me that the first week will be all about getting to know one another in small groups and learn to be a COMMUNITY. :) She sees Ciarra's strengths and intends to highlight them. Perhaps giving her jobs with a digital camera, she is GOOD with a camera. Or letting her create presentations on her computer, she is good at that too, and it all but removes the barriers speech delays cause. This teacher wants Ciarra to be HER student, and her goal is even more lofty than mine, she wants Ciarra in her room ALL the time. She doesnt even want to cede the math I agreed to have her pulled for. She thinks she can do this. I am starting to think she can, too. She thinks French is a "ridiculous" class for Ciarra (oh BOY do I agree!!) and thinks that would be the perfect time for Speech. YAY! She intends to set up learning stations in her room, and in concert with the Special Ed teacher, who will push in services, teach collaboratively to ALL of the kids. I couldnt have dreamed it this good.
The big question mark now is, will this all really happen? will it somehow magically fall into place and be ok? No aide, my girl is on her own. But not completely. She has a teacher who is willing her to make it. And I think she can. I have faith again, tonight. I just hope tomorrow and the days coming dont prove me wrong.
Friday, June 01, 2007
Heartbreaking. Irritating. Mostly heartbreaking.
took Ciarra in to school today, she has her spring concert, and it is a BIG deal to her. All dressed up, hair looking pretty. :) She got to her reg classroom, and she usually has time to be there for a bit, but we were late, so she was expected in SPec Ed room. She did NOT want to go. When she walked in the door, 2 little friends walked over and hugged her, told her she looked beautiful today. They were just starting to go sit and read a book together when the teacher said "Ciarra you HAVE to go". Her friend Renee tried to ask if she could walk with her, teacher said no.
Poor Ciarra, she is so sad. She wants so badly to stay there. She loves the kids there, and they her. So anyway, we walk down to SE, and she is greeted with smiles and hugs there too, but she wants to go back to her classroom. And she has to go to Special Ed instead. And I CANT change this right now, and it breaks my heart.
I know this is not going to sound right, but...she is SO high functioning. Kids who dont do half of what she does are included in other states...why not HER? It kills me to see it, she HATES it. Sigh...I could just cry, she is so capable, if they would just TRY.
Then I got home and got an email, Center for Community Inclusion will be observing her the week of the 9th. We had asked for Inclusion for her for next year at her IEP, and been turned down flat. The school "doesn't DO Inclusion". I had an advocate with me from Maine Disability Rights Center, she had suggested using The Maine Center for Community Inclusion. We didn't think they would have scheduling time enough to observe her this year. The school said we could wait till fall, when she would already be a 3rd grader, not Inluded. Then we could "address concerns". I wanted it done this year, and a plan for Inclusion to be in place BEFORE 3rd grade. At least the school agreed to have her assessed. It costs a LOT of money, $700 bucks per hour. I would give them my right arm if they could make this work for Ciarra. I assume the school will be paying for it. I just hope and pray I get some support to keep her included. I am sad for her today, and I feel powerless. All I can do now is hope and pray CCI helps make the school understand. This child CAN be in a regular classroom, SHOULD be in a regular classroom. She deserves the chance, and it is the LAW. If CCI cant help us work it out, I will have no choice but to go to court. I hope it doesn't get that far. I just want to not have to fight. But make no mistake. I WILL fight.
Wednesday, May 30, 2007
IEP Goals for this year-INCLUSION!
“Only when the nature and severity of the disability is such that education in regular classes with the use of supplementary aids and services cannot be achieved satisfactorily. . . .”
Inclusion
involves bringing the support services to the child (rather than moving the child to the services) and requires only that the child will benefit from being in the class (rather than having to keep up with the other students). Full inclusion means that all students, regardless of handicapping condition or severity, will be in a regular classroom/program full time. All services must be taken to the child in that setting.
Those who support inclusion believe that the child always should begin in the regular environment and be removed only when appropriate services cannot be provided in the regular classroom.
In one manifestation of inclusion, the special education teachers would come into the mainstream classrooms and work with the students in that environment. Thus, there would not be elimination of special education services, but a change in the location of their delivery.
Mainstreaming
the selective placement of special education students in one or more "regular" education classes. Proponents of mainstreaming generally assume that a student must "earn" his or her opportunity to be placed in regular classes by demonstrating an ability to "keep up" with the work assigned by the regular classroom teacher.
Those who support the idea of mainstreaming believe that a child with disabilities first belongs in the special education environment and that the child must earn his/her way into the regular education environment.
Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act of 1973
Section 504 requires that a recipient of federal funds provide for the education of each qualified handicapped person in its jurisdiction with persons who are not handicapped to the maximum extent appropriate to the needs of the handicapped person.
A recipient is required to place a handicapped child in the regular educational environment unless it is demonstrated by the recipient that the education in the regular environment with the use of supplementary aides and services cannot be achieved satisfactorily.
I believe that Ciarra's school should be able to design a much more inclusive program for her with assistance from professionals who have experience integrating children with disabilities in regular classes. She will require certain accommodations, including, perhaps: an itinerant teacher trained in aiding students with developmental disabilities, the assistance of an Inclusion Specialist to help facilitate her placement, modification of the regular curriculum to accommodate her needs, and special education training and consultation for the regular teacher (depending on placement, this step would be unnecessary, with a 3rd grade teacher who is also a spec ed teacher)
Supplementary Aides and Services may include:
Providing preferential seating/Reducing distractions
Providing quiet corner/room
Adapting writing utensils
Providing assistance in maintaining uncluttered space
Providing space for movement or breaks
Instructional modifications
Teaching to learning style
Modifying materials
Providing one to one instruction
Varying method of instruction/content of lesson
Providing alternative assignments
Providing extra visual and verbal cues and prompts
Providing study sheets
Conducting as assistive technology evaluation
Allowing use of computer and calculator
Allowing use of tape recorder
Providing textbooks for at home use
Providing teacher outlines, study guides
Modifying workload or length of assignments/tests
Modifying time demands
Allowing additional time for assignments and tests
Allowing answers to be dictated
Providing word bank
Providing hands-on activities
Providing highlighted materials
Allowing use of manipulatives
Giving no penalty for spelling errors, sloppy handwriting
Following routine or schedule
Teach management skills
Social/behavioral interventions/supports
Providing immediate feedback
Allowing rest breaks
Implementing POSITIVE behavior modification plan as needed
Developing crisis intervention plan
allow unfinished assignments to be completed at home
Using varied reinforcement system
Providing circle of friends/peer buddies
Provide counseling if necessary
Providing verbal and visual cues regarding transition/staying on task
Providing study skills instruction
Providing management skills instruction
Providing agenda book
Providing visual daily schedule
Adjusting assignment timelines
Providing checklists
Giving notice, warning before change in activities
Allowing daily check-in with case manager or special education teacher
Staff supports/collaboration
Providing one on one aide
Designating adult staff member to listen and provide support
Providing small group instruction
Using cooperative learning groups
Testing Accommodations
Allowing answers to be dictated
Allowing frequent rest breaks
Allowing additional time
Allowing oral testing
Giving no timed tests
Giving choice of test (multiple-choice, essay, true-false)
Accepting short answers
Allowing open book or open note tests/Shortening test
Reading test to student
Providing study guide prior to test
Highlighting key directions
Giving test in alternative site
Send home notification of upcoming tests at least two to three days in advance
Utilize a slant board as needed
1: Size
Modify the number of items she is required to complete or expected to produce. The school Neuropsychologist suggested that Ciarra could complete about 1/3 of the work her peers could do in a similar amount of time.
2: Input
Modify how information is delivered to her (visual cues, etc)
3: Time
Modify the number of minutes, hours, or days for completion or participation
4: Difficulty
Modify the level of difficulty of an assignment to fit Ciarra’s needs
i.e.: rather than labeling each body of water and the continents, have her color all of the water blue and all of the land green. Or label State names instead of names/capitols.
5: Output
Modify the way Ciarra must produce information, keeping in mind speech is difficult for her. She LOVES computers, and may be able to present better using a computer program such as Power Point, etc. (with adult help) or other less verbal methods.
6: Participation
Modify the amount of participation required of her in specific activities without excluding her from
those activities
7: Support
Provide additional support and prompts
Suggestions for Specific Modifications:
Community & Classroom:
-Place Ciarra in a small group of peers who are strong role models and empathetic
-Clearly answer questions about Ciarra only outside of her presence when asked by students. Feel free to discuss Down syndrome and its effect on her if they ask.
-An assignment book that clearly shows what she has to get done daily and also weekly, and a daily list of specific activities and responsibilities. Please include scheduled specials such as gym or art so she can plan ahead for clothing needs on those days. (i.e.: sneakers on gym days) She could keep a similar daily list taped to her desk right in front of her, so she knows what is expected of her. When she gets those things accomplished, she would earn points for the day which can be put towards a reward, the reward would be an activity she would choose, but would have educational merit. For instance a game played with a teacher/aide/other student, some time for coloring (which is a huge need for her) or computer or reading time for a few minutes.
-Use "first" and "then". "First" is usually the work/task she will have to accomplish, and the "then" is the reward that she is going to get. If it’s possible, you should set up her schedule so that she can see a bit of incentive. Ciarra will need support in transitioning, including countdowns or 5/2 minute reminders
- Ciarra will need support in developing relationships. The teacher can help by nurturing friendships that start within the classroom. If she has a friend in the class, she will find it easier to learn, and to help her to work more positively and productively. Social bonds she makes at school encourage her, and not having them makes her a reluctant learner. Sometimes it will be difficult to nurture her friendships. She has not learned how to be a GREAT friend yet. She needs direction and help opening the conversation, as though she were a much younger child.
- Have peer partners at recess for her for when she might require some extra help getting involved in play activities.
-Friendship groups will be INTEGRAL to Ciarra’s 3rd grade experience. She thrives when she has friends around. She has become somewhat shy this year, and much less secure in herself. Much of that is speech related. Smaller, quieter groups will help her feel successful.
- Communication notebook is VITAL. It is often the only thing I have to know about her day. She tells me VERY little, and often cannot remember things in any event. Having it in place helps me to know what is going on and not feel so lost when it comes to her education. It is more appreciated than you can imagine.
- Parent meetings help me to pre-teach things you will be working on, and to reinforce them at home as well. They also help me to talk with her about her days and reinforce things you are working on behavior or social wise. It would be very helpful to have such a meeting every 2-4 weeks to stay on top of things.
-Curriculum: I would like a copy of the curriculum (and modifications expected) if at all possible prior to each quarter. Again, it helps me pre-teach, as well as allows me time to purchase or borrow books that might help her to understand subjects better.
Math:
-we are using MathUSee at home, if you would like to learn about it, please just ask.
-use a lot of manipulatives
-allow use of a calculator
-In large group activities, include her by using a skill she does have, i.e. counting: (Make it so that the counting is part of the structure of what's going on rather than creating a special thing for her to do.) Make sure that she gets a role in the group where she’s doing something she can do versus leaving her out for not understanding it all.
- a simple modification would be giving Ciarra photocopied pages from the class textbook, if/when the students have to start copying from the textbook. Photocopying and enlarging the page will help her overcome the difficulty of copying problems or directions and of organizing her work as she follows along.
-A production or method sheet to help remind her how to use the format of the calculator…i.e.: 4+2=6 or 6-3=3, visual cues that can be taped to her desk as a reminder of the process used.
-Notes provided to Ciarra of what the teacher will be writing on the board, broken into explainable steps. (In hand prior to the lesson)
-fewer problems, simpler problems
-peer groups with patient, friendly, capable students.
- Provide individual math instruction daily during half of the regular math class, with the remaining half to participate with regular peers.
Reading & Spelling:
-photocopy any notes for her ahead of time
-other children might have to take a book or a paragraph of information and write a paragraph about it, you might give Ciarra a closed passage with the words underneath. That way she just has to pick the words to put in the right place.
-during silent reading...a better reader could sit quietly in back of the room and read aloud to/with her.
- take words off the main list that students are using, and modify those words by taking the root word or by taking several words off the list.
-Send home spelling words on the preceding Friday.
-let her work with a friendly peer, to give spelling tests to each other before the big day, to practice.
-do not over-correct for spelling, punctuation, or messiness.
-Ciarra LOVES to write, and is pretty good at it.
Social Studies/Science:
- get a book for Ciarra that is at her reading level, but that would be of high interest to her that deals with a topic being discussed in social studies or science. That way she could begin to understand the content of the book, plus the reading level would be a comfortable one for her. We can do a great deal of research at home, and have lots of manipulatives and CD ROMs if only we know what she is studying.
- photocopy any notes for her ahead of time.
- a simple modification would be giving Ciarra photocopied pages from the class textbook, if/when the students have to start copying from the textbook. It will save on exhaustion levels and stress.
-Ciarra is very very visual, if you can show her something, she will understand it better.
-allow Ciarra an alternative way of presenting for reports, etc. that does not rely too heavily on speech, which she struggles with
Specials:
-Art has always been a comfort for Ciarra. It is something she loves, and something she spends a great deal of time doing. I have been told by several people that Ciarra gets frustrated and bored in Art class. For whatever reasons, her specials have not been modified. Art could easily be modified to be something she enjoys again. She will likely not be terribly interested in the history of art, but she can be involved in art in a way that suits her developmental ability. It is a time that could be very beneficial for her stress wise.
-Music is another favorite. What can be done here?
-PE Mr. Reed continues to find ways to modify his program and instruction to meet Ciarra where she is. My only concern is that her APE be structured at a time when it doesn’t cost her classroom time. Perhaps during recess if at all possible, would be better?
-Guidance Guidance class may well begin to be over Ciarra’s head soon. However, I also think that there is a great deal she can get from it. I suspect that with Ciarra’s development lately, the discussions about bodies changing will be happening just in time.
-Library I would ask that we continue using the library bag, and that Ciarra be reminded about her library responsibilities often. At one time, we had a photocopy of the books she brought home, together with the pink bag Mrs Ring gave her. Worked wonders!
BUS- I would like to see Ciarra’s IEP reflect some situations on the bus. Our driver this year has been Mr. Dean. He is a wonderful, loving man who genuinely likes Ciarra and Jesse. But as much as he tries, he cant seem to stop himself from over-protecting Ciarra. He often makes her sit towards the front, when same age peers (and her 2 best friends) are sitting nearer the back. She is fine. As far as I know, she is no more a behavioral concern than the other 2nd graders. I would like the bus company to be reminded that she deserves the same freedom to select her own seat as the other kids. She gets very angry when he makes her come back up front. And her brother gets quite defensive as well. He says “Mr. Dean treats her like a baby!” We appreciate his concern, but as in all things, we want her to be treated like a regular kid.
Some general suggestions:
I will work with you to achieve Ciarra’s goals. I want to be a partner in her education. She came into Kindergarten well-prepared, and that was due in large part to us being able to guide her education fully up until that point. We have lost that connection over the last several years, and are eager to regain it. We recognize that having Ciarra fully included is no easy task. In fact, it is downright scary to consider how badly it could go. But we have faith in you and in her. We know that someday she will have to live in the real world, not seperate, but equal, and we believe the best way to prepare her for that is to start now. We need you to believe in her, too.
If at all possible, having a set of text books at home would reduce the need for her to carry them back and forth. Her size would make doing so difficult, as well as her organizational abilities.
Goals and objectives for Ciarra should be agreed upon for each instructional unit before the unit is taught. Some of the goals will relate to the concepts and content of the unit. Some will relate to the strengths and needs that were identified by the team, and agreed upon as goals and objectives in the IEP. The teaching of the IEP objectives should be embedded in the regular lessons and routines of the classroom. They do not need to be taught at a separate time, in a separate place.
The indications of learning and growth may be different from those of the other children in the class, but they must be recognized by the teacher as valid. If the teacher values Ciarra’s progress and abilities, then the children in the class will also value them. Ciarra does not have to learn the SAME curriculum as the other children, just the same subject matter at her OWN level.
Outline the routines and lessons which the other children are engaged in on a typical day. List the outline for the day on one side of a flip chart, and then, on the other side, identify the supports or adaptations needed to include Ciarra.
There is often no need to make changes, especially to the regular routines. Only very specific areas of the curriculum will need modification.
Perhaps, a classmate might be asked to meet Ciarra at the school door to accompany her to the classroom. This would help her practice the route, and is an opportunity to build a friendship.
Consider whether adaptations or modifications need to be made to the information, the materials, and the instructional process. Decide whether Ciarra will require support to carry out some or all of a lesson or routine, and how the support will be provided.
Be sure Ciarra has a clearly defined role which truly contributes to the success of the group. She might make sure that all the members of the group are present before beginning, or bring materials to the group meetings. She might take photographs to add information to a final report, or take a turn as leader of the group
Write whatever instructional adaptations you plan to make into the daily lesson plans. This means including relevant information on the objectives, the adaptations to the tasks, and the materials needed for her to be able to participate in each lesson. If a substitute teacher or assistant is called to instruct the class, this information must be available.
Testing Accommodations
-Extended time to finish
-For tests requiring extended writing (essay) responses Double Time
-Separate setting
-Small group- quiet with limited visual distractions
-For tests longer than 40 minutes in length 10 minute break every 40 minutes
LAWS:
Oberti vs. Board of Education of the Borough of Clementon School District
http://www.kidstogether.org/ct-obert.htm
(3rd Circuit Court, 1993)
Upheld the right of Rafeal Oberti, a boy with Down syndrome, to receive his education in his neighborhood regular school with adequate and necessary supports, placing the burden of proof for compliance with IDEA's mainstreaming requirements on the school district and the state rather than on the family. The federal judge who decided the case endorsed full inclusion, he wrote "Inclusion is a right, not a special privilege for a select few".
The Oberti Court stated ...
"that education law requires school systems to supplement and realign their resources to move beyond those systems, structures and practices which tend to result in unnecessary segregation of children with disabilities.”
"We emphasize that the Act does not require states to offer the same educational experience to a child with disabilities as is generally provided for nondisabled children.... To the contrary, states must address the unique needs of a disabled child, recognizing that that child may benefit differently from education in the regular classroom than other students. .... In short, the fact that a child with disabilities will learn differently from his or her education within a regular classroom does not justify exclusion from that environment." "Indeed the Act's strong presumption in favor of mainstreaming...would be turned on its head if parents had to prove that their child was worthy of being included, rather than the school district having to justify a decision to exclude the child from the regular classroom."
In finding for the parents in Oberti, the court ruled in favor of a placement that was more inclusive than that provided by a self-contained placement. Specifically, the court ruled that three factors must be considered:
-The court should consider whether the district made reasonable efforts to accommodate the child in regular education. The school must "consider the whole range of supplemental aids and services..."
-The court should compare the educational benefits the child would receive in regular education (with supplemental aids and services) contrasted with the benefits in a special education classroom.
-The court should consider the effect the inclusion of the child with disabilities might have on the education of other children in the regular education classroom.
If, after considering these factors, the court determines that the child cannot be educated satisfactorily in a regular classroom, the court must consider whether the schools have included the child in school programs to the maximum extent appropriate.
[33] In Board of Educ. v. Rowley, 458 U.S. 176, 188-89, 102 S.Ct. 3034, 3042, 73 L.Ed.2d 690 (1982), the Supreme Court held that a "free appropriate public education" under the Act "consists of educational instruction specially designed to meet the unique needs of the handicapped child, supported by such services as are necessary to permit the child `to benefit' from the instruction." This court in turn interpreted Rowley to require the state to offer children with disabilities individualized education programs that provide more than a trivial or de minimis educational benefit.
Greer vs. Rome City School District (11th Circuit Court, 1992)
In this case, the court decided in favor of parents who objected to the placement of their daughter in a self-contained special education classroom. Specifically, the court said: "Before the school district may conclude that a handicapped child should be educated outside of the regular classroom it must consider whether supplemental aids and services would permit satisfactory education in the regular classroom."
The district had considered only three options for the child:
-The regular education classroom with no supplementary aids and services;
-The regular classroom with some speech therapy only;
-The self-contained special education classroom.
The district argued that the costs of providing services in the classroom would be too high. -However, the court said that the district cannot refuse to serve a child because of added cost.
On the other hand, the court also said that a district cannot be required to provide a child his/her own full-time teacher. As in many decisions of this type, no clear determination is made about when costs move from reasonable to excessive. The major message in this case is that all options must be considered before removing a child from the regular classroom.
Sacramento City Unified School District vs. Holland (9th Circuit Court, 1994)
In this case, the circuit court upheld the decision of the lower court in finding for the Holland family. The parents in this case challenged the district's decision to place their daughter half-time in a special education classroom and half-time in a regular education classroom. The parents wanted their daughter in the regular classroom full-time.
A number of issues were addressed in this decision. The court considered a 1989 case in Texas, (Daniel R.R.), which found that regular education placement is appropriate if a disabled child can receive a satisfactory education, even if it is not the best academic setting for the child. Non-academic benefits must also be considered.
In upholding the lower court decision, the 9th Circuit Court established a four-part balancing test to determine whether a school district is complying with IDEA.
The four factors were as follows:
-The educational benefits of placing the child in a full-time regular education program;
-The non-academic benefits of such a placement;
-The effect the child would have on the teacher and other students in the regular classroom;
-The costs associated with this placement.
As a result of applying these factors, the court found in favor of including the child.
Why Inclusion?:
A 1989 study found that over a fifteen year period, the employment rate for high school graduates with special needs who had been in segregated programs was 53%. But for special needs graduates from integrated programs the employment rate was 73%. Furthermore, the cost of educating students in segregated programs was double that for educating them in integrated programs (Piuma, 1989).
We expect Ciarra to grow up and get a job, maybe go on to a secondary education. More and more these days, that is not out of the question. It takes only the belief that kids like her have their own strengths and abilities, and that they deserve a chance to learn and grow like any other kid. She may never learn all of the things her peers will learn. But she will model their speech, and she will try her hardest to take whatever she can from the curriculum. Ciarra is not a behavioral concern, for the most part. Stubborn serves her well, even when it irritates us. The benefits of being taught alongside her peers are great. She is motivated by them, and in the right hands, that motivation is the key to her future.
Until a few years ago, I believed that what we had set up here for Ciarra was the best the world had to offer. In many ways, I was right. The people behind her are wonderful. But in other ways I was wrong. Time and perspective have shown me that she spends very little time in the classroom. Maybe we didn’t believe that she, or we, could pull it off. She can. And we can help her.
We, as a team, have NEVER placed Ciarra in a truly inclusive setting. We assumed, and that includes myself, for whatever reasons, that she couldn’t manage. We, as a team, have never made the effort to put into place supplementary aides and services to keep her in her classroom. It is scary, but I believe it can work. With the changes happening next year, by virtue of her moving to third grade, (new Special Ed room and teacher, new programming, new teachers, etc) it is the ideal time to change her placement.
Things I would like to see in place:
Tutoring- BS would like to work with Ciarra again this summer. Her Concept Development Therapy was a vital part of Ciarra’s preparedness for Kindergarten. She is willing to work with Ciarra several afternoons a week, and will be using the new math program MathUSee with her as well. We hope to have her on the way to catching up to her peers. Summer school has never worked for us. Ciarra is NOT a morning person.
A computer with writing program-Ciarra is beginning to use her home computer more and more as a word processor. She is very successful with it, and loves computers so much that writing stories etc seems like play versus work to her. Having a computer at school with a printer would make it much easier for her to write stories and assignments. The pc would stay at the school, and we would send assignments in on cd to transfer over.
Air conditioning in her classroom
A plan for Therapies- I would very much like to see Ciarra’s schedule done effectively and creatively. There are times and places in the third grade schedule that can be tweaked to better meet her needs. For instance, French. It makes no sense for Ciarra to be learning French. She needs to learn English first. The classroom time that is devoted to French class would be much better spent by her at Speech therapy. Mrs. Johnson has had remarkable success with her this year. Why couldn’t we plan ahead to have Ciarra go to speech while the other children go to French? It saves on her being pulled out during vital class time. If there are any other times that would be better suited to therapies, then OT is a consideration as well. If not, I would prefer that OT be pushed in.
Timing-
I want to be ready to go with plans for a successful year already in place long before Ciarra walks through the door to begin third grade. That means knowing who her teacher will be, knowing that a team is in place to support her educationally, emotionally, and socially. We cannot afford to wait again next year to get started with Friendship Circles and other supports. Ciarra struggled this year, and we dropped the ball. Having a plan to use the biggest motivational factor we have…the other children…in place will give us the jump on her year. It will allow her to get excited again and want to be there. This year has been an exercise in begging and goading and bribing her into going to school. I wasn’t on the ball, and certain aspects of her program weren’t in place in time. I cannot let that happen again. The older she gets, the harder it will be to convince her that school is wonderful, if it is not.
Concerns:
I would like to address the yearly sleepover ahead of time this year. Last year, despite my wishes being made very clear, I was not called when Ciarra started to cry and in fact cried herself to sleep. No one called, and no adult was available to comfort her, despite Candace White being in the next room, and fully capable and willing to help make Ciarra comfortable.
As this is a school function made available to the entire class, Ciarra has a right and a definite need to have someone there to look after her. Children are not individually supervised for quite some time that night, with lots of running back and forth from classroom/lunchroom/gym. With Ciarra’s eye for wandering, this is an unsafe environment for her without someone whose job it is to keep her safe. As it is a school event made available to all the children, it is a legitimate expense to hire an aide specifically for her, given the inability of one aide to watch several very active children.
I recognize that Ciarra has missed quite a few days this year. We had hoped the surgery she had would correct the problem, unfortunately it did not resolve it. She is routinely on antibiotics. The plan now is to wait a few years and then go in and surgically enlarge her sinus cavity. It is a painful and dangerous surgery in a child with such small bone structure. Dr. Giebfried is being as cautious with this as he was with the tonsil surgery. In the meantime, we continue with antibiotics much too often. She is often exhausted from not sleeping well, between the sinus/throat infections and sleep apnea, she really struggles to breathe at night. We are trying to keep her healthy, but it is a hard road. Please be patient with her when she doesn’t feel well. She is a tough little kid, but this thing has really taken a toll on her. I think about years of being sick with this, constant antibiotics, and it makes me tired. I can only imagine how she feels.
Another aspect of Ciarra’s physical and emotional well-being has been her sadness this year. She suddenly knows she is different, and she feels it very strongly. She tells me often that she doesn’t have friends. She has several very good friends, but she craves the contact and social connections in school. The best motivation for Ciarra to get out of bed every day is the prospect that a friend can come over after school. Having that connection in school, having friends there and people who are happy to see her makes ALL the difference in the world. If we can foster a community for her there, she will want to come to school, and she WILL learn. Ciarra shines when she feels loved, and she slouches when she doesn’t. Her emotional well-being is vital to her success at school, and the other children are the key. If I could ask for one thing, it would be that you recognize the power that holds for her.
Aide: Not having an aide fulltime this year has been a bad thing for Ciarra. She NEEDS an aide if she is to succeed in the classroom, fulltime.
Thank you
I certainly know Ciarra is but one of many children whose lives you touch every day. But while she is yours for a year or two, she is mine forever. To me, she is everything. She is my baby, my last child. Her success is the difference between a fulfilling and promising life and one spent alone and lonely. The education you give her now will change everything about her future. Where she lives, HOW she lives, her ability to protect herself, and her ability to enjoy the things in life we so often take for granted, are being formed every day that she is with you. Will she read and enjoy the newspaper? Count change? Live alone or in a group home? Will she find her voice and be proud of who she is, or will she struggle and feel less than capable and give up easily?
This daughter of mine is a fighter. She is a lot like her mom, she doesn’t quit easily. This year has scared me, to tell you the truth. Some of her light has gone out, and I am desperate to rekindle it. She loves to learn, she loves to be successful. But so much depends on her happiness, and right now, that hinges so much on her friendships and relationships. She needs to believe in herself again. I know that for a child with Down syndrome, she is doing very well already. But like all moms, I want even more. I want every bit of life I can grab for her. I want to take every second of learning time and make it count. I want to give her every chance to have the life I have always dreamed for her. And sometimes that means I shoot for the moon.
Tuesday, May 29, 2007
the world is schizophrenic
Ciarra had a baseball game last night. She moved up to a regular pitch league, from T-Ball. It is always a big decision for us, to allow her to follow her dreams or to squash them in the interest of...I dunno...not upsetting anyone, risking her being hurt, making people uncomfortable? I am not really sure, I am just assuming some things. It is odd how you can read so many opinions online about how people claim they "really" feel, and then experience life and get a whole different take on it. If I allowed our lives to be ruled by what others think, I would hide her away from the cruelty out there and keep her safe, at home, with me. But that would mean she missed out on so many things she so desperately wants to do. And it would mean that I do, in fact, see cruelty...out there. For the record, I haven't, yet. Not the slightest whiff of it, even. One time, another parent actually said to me that before she knew Ciarra better, she was "intimidated" by having her around. Intimidated...by an 8 year old? It was interesting to have that conversation, part of me was sad and the other part of me was celebrating that she had the guts to tell me how she really felt. But that's been the extent of it, so far.
Does Ciarra ever wonder about "acceptance" and "belonging"? I have no doubt. Like every other young girl, she wants to be popular, she wants to be invited to every party. She wants to belong. In so many ways, she does. In some other ways, there is more work to be done. But most of the time, Ciarra is just one of the gang. Life will change, perhaps. Maybe we will look back on these moments that were easy and long for them, someday. But with every game, with every hit, with every smile and high-five from a friend, she is learning to take her place in society, and they are learning to expect to see her there beside them.
I don't know what the future will bring, but as scary as it is, I will embrace it just as we embrace every day of her childhood. At some point, it is Ciarra who will carve the path, rather than me. I hope that I am right to teach her that she belongs just as much as any other child out on the field, in the classroom, in the world. So, we play baseball, and we expect that Ciarra will be treated like any other kid out there. And she really is. Sure, she needs a few more tries to do some things, she probably won't be very good this year at catching pop flies, but she is sure trying.
She got a VERY nice hit last night, and the people watcher in me was intrigued by the reaction of the fans on both sides of the diamond. ALL of the kids cheered, ALL of the parents cheered. In fact, as she rounded first base, her friend hugged her. There is this sort of unspoken pride they seem to take in her, like she is the underdog in some ways, and they are rooting her on. But it doesn't feel like pity. It feels like respect. Respect for her trying so hard. Respect for being out there, doing her best, and succeeding. I wonder sometimes if they are just surprised that she can do it, and she appeals to the better parts of them as people? No matter, really. She is out there, and she is doing it. And she is happy.
Sometimes she does things that surprise all of us. Last week, she stopped a ball cold that was well-hit, scooped it up, and threw it hard to the coach/pitcher, effectively ending the play and saving at least 2 runs. It was one of those in the moment things where her ability shined far and above her dis-ability. It was neat to watch the other kids walk over and high-five her, and to hear a boy from her team telling his mom that "Ciarra saved us on that play." Then the hit last night, and her pride as she turned to look at us, give us the thumbs up sign, and turn back around to be a part of the game she so loves. Pride doesn't even come close, and it has nothing at all to do with the hit, an everything to do with her determination to be everything she can be in this world. Ciarra doesn't demand home runs, she is just happy to play the game. But make no mistake, she wants to win as much as the next kid. She takes pride in her team, in her play, in her ability. Doesn't matter what the outside world thinks, really. Ciarra thinks she is doing a great job, and Mom and Dad and Coach do, too. And from the sounds of things last night, here in our world, in her life, she is accepted and celebrated. All I can ask is that she be treated fairly, that she be given the opportunity to be a child. All I can dream for is exactly what we are living, and I am grateful that we live in a time and place where Ciarra can just be a kid, play the game, and hear her name called out by people who care about her and want her to succeed.
Sunday, May 06, 2007
Experiments in Inclusion. Baseball 2007.
age 6 T-Ball
One of the most intriguing aspects of parenting a child with a significant disability is the decisions you must make, over and over again, year after year. You gauge all of the information at hand, look at motivations (is this for you or for your child?) and make a plan that will allow your child to have or be or do whatever it is that they and you would like for them to have or be or do. For my child, who has Down syndrome, that decision is primarily made twice a year in relation to schooling, and 4-5 times a year in relation to sports.
Ciarra LOVES sports. Just like her big brother, she is a competitor. She loves the games, she loves the crowds, the dirt, the contact, the noise. But mostly, she loves to compete. She wants to win, and she wants to be a part of the winning, and not just be a spectator.
In many ways, the frustrations of striving for true inclusion in her schooling can be depressing and disheartening. Currently, we are battling the school (perhaps all the way to court, it seems) to include her more. She does not like to go to Special Ed when it means missing out on fun and exciting classroom time. And she knows the difference. We are asking the school to bring in an Inclusion Specialist to help find the ways that she can be included more, to make scheduling work better for her. But it is an emotionally charged and frustrating time, when PET time rolls around each Spring and decisions and placements are made for the next year.
It's a good thing that Baseball season comes on the heels of the PETs, because for now it is the saving grace in her world. In baseball, Ciarra is standing on an even playing field with her typical peers. She is not the strongest, nor the weakest. She is not the fastest...ok, she is the slowest. And sometimes she needs reminders as to where the play is, which base to throw to. But her heart is in the game, and she lives and breathes it for every single second of the season. Still, the decision to let her play or not is a hard one. Lots of things to consider. We help make the decision easier by finding a coach who is willing to work with us. This year, her coach and his assistants are wonderful. They remind her, encourage her, and prompt her when necessary. But mostly, they treat her with respect, they honor what she can do, and they do not assume that she can't. In her head coach's words from Friday night: "Teach them to respect you, Ciarra." She did, and she does.
I only wish that she didn't have to reteach this every season, in every sport she plays. It seems every season is a test, can Ciarra do it? Can she keep up? Is this the best choice? These are very real questions, and they require honest answers. Answers not skewed with Mom's opinion, but objective and realistic judgements on her ability to play the game, do it safely, and do it in a way that does not detract from the experiences of the other children on her team.
It means knowing that a certain fraction of parents will wonder what the heck we are doing out there, and it means facing some prejudices head on. It means asking the good folks who run the local rec program what they think; inevitably their answer is, "If she wants to play, let her play." They do seem to understand the intensity of my questions. I think sometimes I ask so many because I want to give them an opportunity to say no if they really think it won't work. To their great credit, they never have. Instead, they take notes about concerns, and they try to help me make the decisions about placement, coaches, and safety. They discuss honestly with me each year, each sport, each season...what can we do to allow her to play the games she loves so much?
This year, it meant allowing an 8 year old to move up to regular baseball, from T-Ball. 3 years of T-Ball have taught her the basics, and given her a thirst for real pitches and meaningful scores. The team she is on is made up of 6-7-8 year olds from 1st and 2nd grade. Ciarra is a 2nd grader, size wise and ability wise, she fits in fairly well. It was interesting to note that she has more of an attention span than some on her team, mostly boys, and somewhat younger than she. But she is decidedly a member of the team. She takes great pride in putting on her white baseball pants and her new cleats. Pink glove, hat, even tiny batting gloves. She certainly looks the part. One concession we made was purchasing a smaller (pink, of course!) batting helmet, the rec ones are huge on her and she really needs to see where she is running to.
Of course, there are plenty of very capable kids on her team, and on other teams. They can really throw the ball, for instance, much farther and harder than she can. Some of them hit farther than she does, too. But hitting the ball is not a problem for Ciarra, either. She clocks it, actually. I think it was quite a surprise for the little guys crowding the plate expecting a 3 foot roll if she got lucky enough to hit it at all. It was one of those great moments of parenting a disabled child to see her look of pride, their look of surprise, and the newfound respect they showed for her when the next inning came up and they positioned themselves farther back in the outfield. As always, it is Ciarra doing the teaching in this topsy turvy world of Down syndrome and society, she leads the way and I just follow along whispering crazily to myself "I told ya so!" So many times, she has proven herself capable to a less than open-minded crowd. Be it reading, or scoring a goal in soccer, or tying her shoes so early on, Ciarra proves often that there are at least as many things she is GOOD at as there are things she struggles with. In her world, "I can't do it" is not in the vocabulary. I am learning not to let it be in mine, either.
No doubt, she is growing older in a society whose expectations are ever more demanding. It may someday not be enough that Ciarra is really good at hitting the ball, if she cannot run fast enough she will be seen as a detriment. Just as we struggled this year with her wanting to play and all of our doubts about ability and attitudes, we will make and remake this decision over and over again in the years to come. Someday, it may be the most appropriate thing to tell her that she cannot play. Someday her safety may be at risk and the decision will be easier. I have allowed myself to consider what it will be like when that day comes, but I am jerked back to reality by Ciarra herself, tugging on my sleeve, holding up her little pink glove, and imploring me to go outside and "Practice baseball!"
If I would have known, when she was born, how much of a fighter she would be, it would have eased so many of my worries and concerns. I needn't have worried. She is far more capable and has far more heart than I could have ever imagined. The goodness of most of the people around her makes it possible, for now; coaches who see her as just another kid, parents who see her as an individual and not a token representative for Down syndrome, and a society that is slowly but surely knocking down the doors of exclusion. For now, the world is right, and Ciarra has the opportunity to make her own mark on her world, in something she loves, and be judged on her ability, and not her disability. Good luck, baby girl.
Experiments in Inclusion. Baseball 2007.
age 6 T-Ball
One of the most intriguing aspects of parenting a child with a significant disability is the decisions you must make, over and over again, year after year. You gauge all of the information at hand, look at motivations (is this for you or for your child?) and make a plan that will allow your child to have or be or do whatever it is that they and you would like for them to have or be or do. For my child, who has Down syndrome, that decision is primarily made twice a year in relation to schooling, and 4-5 times a year in relation to sports.
Ciarra LOVES sports. Just like her big brother, she is a competitor. She loves the games, she loves the crowds, the dirt, the contact, the noise. But mostly, she loves to compete. She wants to win, and she wants to be a part of the winning, and not just be a spectator.
In many ways, the frustrations of striving for true inclusion in her schooling can be depressing and disheartening. Currently, we are battling the school (perhaps all the way to court, it seems) to include her more. She does not like to go to Special Ed when it means missing out on fun and exciting classroom time. And she knows the difference. We are asking the school to bring in an Inclusion Specialist to help find the ways that she can be included more, to make scheduling work better for her. But it is an emotionally charged and frustrating time, when PET time rolls around each Spring and decisions and placements are made for the next year.
It's a good thing that Baseball season comes on the heels of the PETs, because for now it is the saving grace in her world. In baseball, Ciarra is standing on an even playing field with her typical peers. She is not the strongest, nor the weakest. She is not the fastest...ok, she is the slowest. And sometimes she needs reminders as to where the play is, which base to throw to. But her heart is in the game, and she lives and breathes it for every single second of the season. Still, the decision to let her play or not is a hard one. Lots of things to consider. We help make the decision easier by finding a coach who is willing to work with us. This year, her coach and his assistants are wonderful. They remind her, encourage her, and prompt her when necessary. But mostly, they treat her with respect, they honor what she can do, and they do not assume that she can't. In her head coach's words from Friday night: "Teach them to respect you, Ciarra." She did, and she does.
I only wish that she didn't have to reteach this every season, in every sport she plays. It seems every season is a test, can Ciarra do it? Can she keep up? Is this the best choice? These are very real questions, and they require honest answers. Answers not skewed with Mom's opinion, but objective and realistic judgements on her ability to play the game, do it safely, and do it in a way that does not detract from the experiences of the other children on her team.
It means knowing that a certain fraction of parents will wonder what the heck we are doing out there, and it means facing some prejudices head on. It means asking the good folks who run the local rec program what they think; inevitably their answer is, "If she wants to play, let her play." They do seem to understand the intensity of my questions. I think sometimes I ask so many because I want to give them an opportunity to say no if they really think it won't work. To their great credit, they never have. Instead, they take notes about concerns, and they try to help me make the decisions about placement, coaches, and safety. They discuss honestly with me each year, each sport, each season...what can we do to allow her to play the games she loves so much?
This year, it meant allowing an 8 year old to move up to regular baseball, from T-Ball. 3 years of T-Ball have taught her the basics, and given her a thirst for real pitches and meaningful scores. The team she is on is made up of 6-7-8 year olds from 1st and 2nd grade. Ciarra is a 2nd grader, size wise and ability wise, she fits in fairly well. It was interesting to note that she has more of an attention span than some on her team, mostly boys, and somewhat younger than she. But she is decidedly a member of the team. She takes great pride in putting on her white baseball pants and her new cleats. Pink glove, hat, even tiny batting gloves. She certainly looks the part. One concession we made was purchasing a smaller (pink, of course!) batting helmet, the rec ones are huge on her and she really needs to see where she is running to.
Of course, there are plenty of very capable kids on her team, and on other teams. They can really throw the ball, for instance, much farther and harder than she can. Some of them hit farther than she does, too. But hitting the ball is not a problem for Ciarra, either. She clocks it, actually. I think it was quite a surprise for the little guys crowding the plate expecting a 3 foot roll if she got lucky enough to hit it at all. It was one of those great moments of parenting a disabled child to see her look of pride, their look of surprise, and the newfound respect they showed for her when the next inning came up and they positioned themselves farther back in the outfield. As always, it is Ciarra doing the teaching in this topsy turvy world of Down syndrome and society, she leads the way and I just follow along whispering crazily to myself "I told ya so!" So many times, she has proven herself capable to a less than open-minded crowd. Be it reading, or scoring a goal in soccer, or tying her shoes so early on, Ciarra proves often that there are at least as many things she is GOOD at as there are things she struggles with. In her world, "I can't do it" is not in the vocabulary. I am learning not to let it be in mine, either.
No doubt, she is growing older in a society whose expectations are ever more demanding. It may someday not be enough that Ciarra is really good at hitting the ball, if she cannot run fast enough she will be seen as a detriment. Just as we struggled this year with her wanting to play and all of our doubts about ability and attitudes, we will make and remake this decision over and over again in the years to come. Someday, it may be the most appropriate thing to tell her that she cannot play. Someday her safety may be at risk and the decision will be easier. I have allowed myself to consider what it will be like when that day comes, but I am jerked back to reality by Ciarra herself, tugging on my sleeve, holding up her little pink glove, and imploring me to go outside and "Practice baseball!"
If I would have known, when she was born, how much of a fighter she would be, it would have eased so many of my worries and concerns. I needn't have worried. She is far more capable and has far more heart than I could have ever imagined. The goodness of most of the people around her makes it possible, for now; coaches who see her as just another kid, parents who see her as an individual and not a token representative for Down syndrome, and a society that is slowly but surely knocking down the doors of exclusion. For now, the world is right, and Ciarra has the opportunity to make her own mark on her world, in something she loves, and be judged on her ability, and not her disability. Good luck, baby girl.